My Labour Story

The 8th of October 2016. 6:30 my self , my parents and my whole family were sitting in the loungeroom around a table playing the logo game, an hour into the game full of laughs 7:15pm come around waiting for my dad to answer this question all of a sudden I felt so weird and POP literally pop my water breaks all over the chair everywhere it was like in a movie up I jump screaming and crying carrying on like I was going to die. my sister had to ring my midwife and fill her in that my waters had broke and all I heard on the phone was "I'm an hour away " in the background freaking the hell out I was thinking an hour away what the fuck I'm going to have this baby by myself! I needed her there and I needed her stat running around like an idiot getting all my bags ready trying to wrap my head around everything like holly shit im about to be a mum in a matter of hours & my midwife is an hour away eating seafood. As I got everything ready I have a towel in between my legs I jumped in the car with my sister to go pick up my two other sisters, at this point no contractions just really uncomfortable as I was soaked, we picked up my sisters and we were approaching the hospital minutes away my sister asked "are you okay to walk or want me to drop you at the front" nah I'm okay to walk I replied, as we went around the roundabout just passing the hospital my sister said are you sure & BOOM contractions started and they were painful "drop me off drop off I'm not walking" I screamed, my sister dropped me and my other sister off we had to sit on this silver chair out front of the labour ward until my midwife arrived because we weren't allowed in until she was there with me. about 5 minutes on that chair I was yelling and getting so so fustrated asking where is she where is she why is she out at dinner she's not allowed to go for dinner , did she forget about me or something she said she will be here I think my baby is coming now quick my sisters got on the phone rang my midwife she said I'm just around the corner if she can't wait just go in , we all rushed in the lady at the desk and other midwifes maybe thought I wasn't in labour or something but I deffinetly was we were directed in the assesment room and that's when it all come to me all contractions were hitting me none in my stomach all in my down below, my waters had broken there was water everywhere weather they believed me I was in labour or not no one would asses me to see how dilated I was , a doctor was in the room getting everything ready. & all I kept on saying was "where the fuck is mary?" (My midwife) contractions kept on coming and going and when they came my vagina was on absolute fire, I thought my baby was about to fly on out without my midwife there, my sisters told me to breathe just breathe , breathing isn't going to help my vagina is it I screamed at them. and all I heard was look tyla look who it is and boy was I so happy to see my midwife walk through that door, in she come and stood right at my head I straight out asked why she went for dinner? she was telling us about what happened she was telling us about the night and said to me punch me if you want and boy did I want to punch her with the pain I was in but I didn't because she is so bloody lovely. at this point contractions were still coming and going and they were stronger then ever mary was assessing the monitoring machine and feeling my belly as the contractions come. as i was getting distressed mary suggested for me to go on the gas couple puffs on the gas and everyone went small the whole room was spinning and the contractions got worse and they kept saying suck on the gas but I could not have any of that because it made me dizzy. Mary assed me worst thing ever !! I was 4cm dilated she walked out to look at paperwork and it felt like I was going to poo I thought I needed to push I yelled I need to push mary walked in & said " unless yous are real fast at labouring there's no way your fully dilated yet" I grunted and grunted and she said I'll check again she checked and looked at my sisters and said yep she's 10cm my sisters were in so much shock far out shes going to have this baby soon they were all talking to each other ringing my parents and all the rest of it, they couldn't believe how fast it was all going mind you this was an hour in, at about 9:10 or so I had a blanket all over me I had to walk from the assessing room to where I was going to have Bub. I laid down on the bed and I needed to push baby was down she wanted out and fast , I yelled to my midwife mary I need to push. I didn't know if I was allowed because I've seen movies and sometimes there not allowed you know. so mary said to me with every contraction tyla I want you to push ,I remember asking for an epidural and mary being hesitant saying I don't need it because I was so against it during my whole pregnancy. "this is the hardest part tyla it's going to sting too " far out did it fucking sting i screamed and screamed and baby's head was crowning, with &this last push I want the baby out mary said , one big push baby's head was out. and then the doctor said tyla you need to listen to mary now and I remember watching movies with the last pushes only little pushes nothing extreme so I made sure I listened but I couldn't hear coz I had a pillow over my head whoops. but after an exhausting bit of pushing 9:40 pm my baby girl novannah Ruby radzki was welcomed in the world & in that moment time stood still she was the most precious little thing I've ever laid my eyes on, once I had her on my chest nothing else mattered except a needle being jabbed in my leg and I still had to deliver the placenta ughhh that was nothing for what was to come, in come a doctor my legs were put up in styreps and the doctor checked to see if I needed stitches & of course I needed them "You can have gas for this if you want " for stitches oh that's fine I just gave birth to an 8 pound baby surely this isn't going to hurt , wasn't I wrong , worst pain ever I felt every bit of stitch going in and out even with numbing cream I felt it all. I gave novannah to my sister because I couldn't hold her i thought I was going to drop her when another stitch went in. that was all done thank god!! Mark my words stitches for me hurt more then birthing a baby. up I got showered come back in rested and mary took me and novannah went to the postnatal ward for the night & mary left me for dead and that's where my journey of motherhood started. this was the beginning of something so special do not fear childbirth that's the easy part there is no epidural for motherhood , this is just the beginning of our story. keep up with me raising novannah as a single parent.